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PostSubject: Help :)   Sun Nov 07, 2010 9:28 pm

This information is not mine! Lol. It helped me a lot, but it came off of a website. I copied and pasted this info to help, but to also keep everyone in the forums. Enjoy, hope it helps.


Why is it difficult to give up cheating?

It is hard to give up cheating because it is like an addiction. You know there is something that is bad but you like it. It is fulfilling some need. For example, if you seek intellectual stimulation and your partner is not providing that, you may find yourself getting attracted to somebody who is brainy and fulfills your mental needs. Every little text message, every call and every meeting becomes special, even if it is not going anywhere in the future. Your needs, emotional or physical, are being met by somebody else and you will find it difficult to give it up since you find it difficult to let go off all the stimulation and need fulfillment. You cannot suddenly deal with a vacuum within you. That is why you may find it very difficult to stop cheating.


How to stop cheating and stay faithful


Difficult as it may feel and be, it is not an impossible task. Even after one quits smoking, he goes through painful feelings but certainly survives. You will live too, that too a good life. Stopping yourself from cheating can mean saving lot of trouble and instability. You have to stop something that is wrong. Here are a few ways that can help you stop cheating and stay faithful to your partner.

* Avoid constant messaging and phone calls
* Remember you have a partner who loves you
* Avoid thinking what it could be and what you do not have
* Control your urge to meet up for just one last time, even if it is to end
* Call up your ‘other’ or email that you cannot be in the relationship
* Remember it is not over until it is over
* Talk to your husband or wife about what you expect from your relationship
* Avoid waiting for the right moment to stop cheating. Just do it
* Imagine what will be the consequences if you are found out
* Concentrate towards making your present relationship better
* Meet long lost friends or new ones along with your girlfriend or boyfriend
* Count your blessings and you will see that life has treated you well
* Avoid criticizing and comparing your partner
* Avoid comparing your situation with the movies. You are for real
* Show respect towards your partner’s trust and emotions
* Spend more time with your partner. Do special things
* Avoid being negative about your relationship or married life
* Share with your partner if you are not happy about something. It works
* Consult a therapist or relationship expert if everything else fails


In the journey of life you will meet many people, far richer and more beautiful or handsome than your partner. Every time you meet one, you might meet another who is even better. There will always be temptations beckoning you towards themselves. But remember, no one is perfect, not even you.

No one person can fulfill all your needs. So stop being judgmental and focus on making your relationship better. Avoid looking around for new people; it will only create discontent within your heart. Being loyal is not about not being attracted, but remembering you have a loving partner, every time you get attracted.


All credit goes to:"http://www.indiaparenting.com/relationships/article.cgi?art_id=76"
P.s. Stay in our forums, don't go their, they have funny Christmas looking decorations.
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PostSubject: Re: Help :)   Sun Nov 07, 2010 10:15 pm

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Funny Christmas decorations.
Thank you Chaotic. This is a very nice piece. =]
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